The calluses on my heart
Brought in by grief and strife
Make pain for me a source of grace
Defining strength through sorrow
And hope through surrender
Theses calluses on my heart
Redfine love through scars.
Loss and pain dont 'make you stronger if it does not kill you'. It just kills you. Piece by piece. Damage upon damage. Pain is just that- pain. It is not a character-building tool. It may help you understand another's, but that is a hard lesson. All you can do is learn to live with it. And maybe, if you are strong enough, eventully, grow with it.
